What's the best gift for a mama?
Updated: Apr 29
My husband and I have never been big on gift giving, but ever since we've been parents, there's something nice about putting some time aside to do something nice for your partner. I don't know about all of you, but if we don't intentionally set some time aside for each other, it just ain't happening. Ever since our first baby was born, we often come last on the to-do list (in every sense of the expression).
We're not at a point in our lives where we can budget more than 100$ for a gift (and even that is pushing it), but we also can justify buying things for ourselves as we need them. All to say, that Ninja blender just isn't making it on the birthday list.
So, what does a mama want?!
I want someone else, for once, to make the damn decisions! Yes, I want my husband to come home from work with a plan. Every single inch of a plan, mapped out so that my mama brain has no questions to ask. I want to put my brain on hold. I want someone to tell me what to wear (though I'm not sure I trust him with this one), where we're going, to have the diaper bag packed (for us, or for someone else to take), and to tell me what the freakin' deal is. My husband goes to work every day, where his brain is in overdrive, so I don't necessarily blame him for coming home and wanting to shut it off, too. At the end of the day, he walks into my 'office', which usually means I have a plan set out for how the rest of the day is going to go; what we're going to eat, what we might have planned, when the kids should be going to bed and the overall tone of the evening is set. I'm super grateful that he goes with the flow and jumps right in - it works for us and for our family (the majority of the time... I think?). BUT, this means that on most days, my brain is 'ON' from the moment I wake to the moment I lay in bed... to the moment I wake for a feed and to the moment I lay back in bed.
So, I don't care about a new clothes, a fancy bathrobe, or a gadgety kitchen appliance. What I truly want is for someone to just tell me the plan. Come home, tell me you've ordered a pizza, that we're going for a family walk, and that you're bathing the kids before bed. Take the reins. I want to shut my brain off, entirely. All of the half of it that still (kinda) works.
"Here's the plan" might be the sexiest line there is. And let me tell you, it doesn't even need to wait for a birthday.